The Wedding Guest’s Guide To Bow Ties

Did you know that the bow tie, the platinum standard in elegant wedding attire, has its origins in the Thirty Years War as nothing more than a means for Croat mercenaries to close the necks of their shirts?

In the 18th century the bow tie, or cravat, was adopted by the French who turned into a high fashion accessory.

August 28, 2017 is National Bow Tie Day. So today’s post is all about helping the well dressed wedding guest determine which tie is appropriate to wear to which wedding. Today bow tie options  are plentiful, but the following advice from The Genlemanual will help you choose the right bow tie for the wedding that you’re attending.

1. The White Tie Wedding

The white tie wedding is the alpha and omega of wedding elegance. It requires a black dress coat with tails and black patent leather shoes. A white bow tie is a must for the white tie wedding. White or black dress gloves are optional.

Bow tie vs Neck tie2. Black Tie Weddings

Black tie weddings are generally fancy evening affairs. The dress code calls for a formal black tux and a black bow tie

How to wear a bow tie to a wedding3. Formal Weddings

For a formal wedding a dark suit can be worn instead of a tux and the bow tie can be replaced by a regular neck tie.

How to choose a necktie for a wedding 4. Semi-formal:

Again either a bow tie or neck tie is acceptable. The appropriate choice of suit color is dependent upon the time of day; lighter colors for daytime affairs and darker colors for evening affairs.

5. Casual or Business Casual

For this type of wedding, you may choose to forego a suit and tie altogether. You wouldn’t even be amiss to wear a nice pair of clean, pressed khakis and a polo shirt.

All photos from The Gentlemanual

Pat and Jody Tie The Knot In Their Orcutt Ranch Wedding

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Surrounded by the early springtime greenery of  Orcutt Ranch Horticulture Center, Pat and Jody exchanged vows in a gorgeous garden ceremony.  Frank Martin of Luxury Events For Less designed an affair that was both casual and elegant, combining the garden’s exceptional greenery with the couples soft color palette of mint, cream and purple. Luna Bella Photography did an outstanding job of photographing the affair, creating photos that had an almost 3D quality

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Jody wore a gown in a lovely soft shade of green, one of The Knot’s hot color picks for this years wedding season.

Pat and Jody waited 14 years to marry because they wouldn’t settle for a commitment ceremony or domestic partnership. Their ceremony included a handfasting after the ring exchange and jumping the broom as part of the pronouncement of marriage.

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  • Venue: Orcutt Ranch Horticulture Center
  • Wedding Planner: Luxury Events For Less
  • Wedding Photographer: Luna Bella Photography
  • Wedding Officiant: Rev. Connie Jones-Steward

 

What is a Vow Renewal?

beachA vow renewal is wonderful and romantic way to mark a milestone anniversary such as the 10th, 25th or 50th.  It can also be a time for spouses to recommit to one another after a period of separation or marital disharmony.

Your vow renewal can be similar to your wedding ceremony or something completely new and different. You can involve your kids and some of the newer trends that weren’t available when you first said I do.

For instance, your kids are probably teens by now. You can enlist them as the maid of honor and best man.

You can also take advantage of some of the newer technologies and hashtag, tweet or broadcast your vow renewal to distant relatives via Instagram, Twitter and Facebook live or similar services as it happens.*

Contact Rev. Connie Jones-Steward for help with planning your vow renewal ceremony.

*This post updated in August 2017

 

 

Getting Married? There’s an app for that.

Long gone are the days of mega planning binders and endless hours of trolling through the yellow pages. Today’s tech savvy brides and grooms are using wedding related smart phone apps that are making even the traditional web search unnecessary. Here is a list of 10 wedding related apps for your IPhone or Blackberry:

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    1. Amazon Mobile: Use this to build your wedding related wish list in addition to or in lieu of your department store registry.

 

    1. Bride Guide: Includes a countdown timer, to-do lists, budget calculators and much more.

 

    1. Itunes: Use this app to create a wedding related playlist. Great for creating mixed CD’s to give as favors.

 

    1. Sunrise-Sunset:A great tool for planning outdoor weddings. Displays the times for sunrise, sunset, solar noon and more.

 

    1. Weather Bug: Good for checking the weather forecast for your wedding day or in your honeymoon destination

 

  1. Wedding Dress Look Book: Helps you to choose the perfect wedding dress.

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    1. Frugality: Use to comparison shop and help make informed buying decisions

 

    1. Kayak: Find airfares and hotel rates quickly, then use the app to book online or call your chosen hotel/airline to speak to a representative

 

    1. Wedding Vows: Offers a selection of several vows that you can use to help create your own personal vows.

 

  1. Wedding Organizer: A group of checklists, to-do lists and suggested time lines to help keep your planning on track

Friends don’t let friends officiate

Ok so maybe my title is a bit of an overstatement, after all my friend officiated my wedding but she was also a trained celebrant and respected leader in our faith community. Specifically, I’m talking about the DIY trend of having your friend or relative ordained or deputized for the sole purpose of performing your wedding. It could work. It worked when Joey officiated Phoebe’s wedding on the TV show Friends. On the other hand it might be a mistake. Do you want to take that chance with your wedding?

The wedding ceremony is an intense one filled with high expectations and equally high emotions. All eyes will be on the couple AND the officiant. Your friend or relative might be the most confident person you know but will they be able to withstand the attention? Even strong public speakers have been known to choke up when they realize that they are doing more than just reading a script; they are in fact solemnizing a spiritual, legal and life-changing union.

I may be biased but I highly suggest that, if your wedding ceremony is important to you, you seek the services of an officiant who is not only ordained but also trained and experienced in the arts of ritual and ceremony.

Who’s on your vendor list?

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Guest blogger: Lester Molina of Lester Molina Photography

 Just like the title says: “Who’s on your vendor list? Do you have the most important ones?
A recent poll in a popular bridal forum, asked brides to rate the most important vendors on their list, from 1-10, 10 being the least important, therefore 1 being the most important. The following are the actual options the brides were given to vote on.

1 Food and Service
2 Beverage and Bartenders
3 Reception Venue
4 Photographer
5 Dress and Alterations
6 Videographer
7 Reception Decorations and Centerpieces
8 DJ
9 Cake and Cutting Fee

Your order may be a little different, depending on what’s more important to you, but, look closely, do you see something missing? You will, if you are planning to walk away from the wedding with a marriage certificate. The Officiant. These brides were so focused on what they wanted for their wedding, they overlooked the one vendor they could not have a wedding without. Other vendors, such as photographers, videographers, florists, caterers, dj, planner, and others, are more of a want, than a need.

What do you absolutely NEED for your wedding? Well, the officiant. Without one, or at least a public notary, you’ll not be getting married any time soon. Although the Officiant is technically the most important, other vendors are just as important, if you wish to make your wedding, the most memorable day of your life, at least until  the birth of your child. See, weddings are a rather complex event. A lot of coordinations is needed to make it work like you want it to. That’s why hiring a planner is the best way to go. You also want your guests to have fun, and enjoy your wedding day (in the end, the reception is just a big party you throw your guests, so they can celebrate your wedding with you), therefore you need food, drinks, a nice wedding cake, and a place to hold all this in. Caterers, bartenders, bakers, and a venue is needed to achieve this. That’s only the food part of the fun, now comes the dancing part of the fun, so a good professional dj, or at least a band will make sure to keep the guests on their feet, and from leaving early due to a boring reception. You’ll also want a florist to decorate the venue, make your bouquets, boutonnières, and other floral arrangements so your wedding looks just like you envisioned it.

This will also help you get beautiful wedding photographs, and wedding video, because you do want to have something to look at and remember your wedding, right? Then you’ll need a professional wedding photographer, and videographer. So you see, one is really not more important than the other. On your wedding day, we all come together and chip in, to make your wedding exactly what you dreamed it to be. So, next time, think about what you’ll be missing if you decide to leave a vendor for last, or excluded at all,  and make the right decision. If you don’t, you’ll regret it after the wedding, I guarantee it!

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