It’s quite natural to feel stressed out and overwhelmed in the last weeks leading up to your wedding day. You’ve got a to-do list as long as your arm and you’ve got a dozen nagging fears. What if nobody shows up? What if your bouquet arrives in a less than fresh state? What if the guys who deliver the cake trip while getting it out of the van? What if it rains? These are the worries I had during the countdown to my wedding day and you probably have a few of your own. You may not be able to “not worry” but there are things you can do to help you ease your stress and greet your wedding day in a calmer state of mind. Here’s a list of five strategies that are almost guaranteed to help calm even the most nervous of brides.
1. Get some exercise: Exercise releases endorphins and endorphins help relieve stress. Take a walk or jog to clear your head. If the gym is your thing take a hot yoga class or a cycling class. During this busy time, exercise may feel like just another chore that you have to squeeze into your already brimming schedule, but once those endorphins kick in you’ll be glad that you did.
2. Make a spa date: If you plan on getting a facial or having your brows waxed, obtain these services at least a week or so in advance to avoid any facial redness on the wedding day. While you’re at it get a full body massage to work out the kinks and knots.
3. Don’t worry about the weather. You’ve
likely been tracking weather systems and checking forecasts for some time now, but you still have to accept that the weather is out of your control and surprise rain showers may s shows up Therefore it’s always a good idea to have a back up plan if your wedding or reception is outdoors. If it does rain just chill and know that some cultures consider rain on a couples wedding day to be a portent of good luck.
4. Have a girls movie night in. Invite your bridesmaids, sisters and gal pals over for a wedding movie marathon. I suggest “The Best Man” and “Jumping The Broom”. I also suggest you avoid “The Best Man 2” harder than you avoid letting the groom see your wedding gown before the ceremony.
5. Take care of your spiritual body. Have a reiki session to help relax the mind and soul. Take time out to meditate. Instead of focusing on seating charts and timelines turn your focus inward for a little time alone with your thoughts. You’ll feel the pre-wedding jitters melting away into a limpid pool of calm.
Long gone are the days of mega planning binders and endless hours of trolling through the yellow pages. Today’s tech savvy brides and grooms are using wedding related smart phone apps that are making even the traditional web search unnecessary. Here is a list of 10 wedding related apps for your IPhone or Blackberry:
- Amazon Mobile: Use this to build your wedding related wish list in addition to or in lieu of your department store registry.
- Bride Guide: Includes a countdown timer, to-do lists, budget calculators and much more.
- Itunes: Use this app to create a wedding related playlist. Great for creating mixed CD’s to give as favors.
- Sunrise-Sunset:A great tool for planning outdoor weddings. Displays the times for sunrise, sunset, solar noon and more.
- Weather Bug: Good for checking the weather forecast for your wedding day or in your honeymoon destination
- Wedding Dress Look Book: Helps you to choose the perfect wedding dress.
- Frugality: Use to comparison shop and help make informed buying decisions
- Kayak: Find airfares and hotel rates quickly, then use the app to book online or call your chosen hotel/airline to speak to a representative
- Wedding Vows: Offers a selection of several vows that you can use to help create your own personal vows.
- Wedding Organizer: A group of checklists, to-do lists and suggested time lines to help keep your planning on track
The holiday season is upon us and though the greeting card companies proclaim this as the season of “peace on Earth and goodwill to men” this is usually one of the most stressful times of the year. This year’s holiday season promises to be more stressful than most as financial and economic uncertanties add to a heightened sense of frustration and vulnerability within families and between neighbors. Here are a few steps that one can take when dealing with neighbors, coworkers and others that seem to be behaving in irrational and purposely irritating ways.
- Be a friendly driver. During the holiday season we become more inclined to such rude behaviors as competing for parking spaces and cutting other drivers off on the freeway. Foregoing these urges will leave you feeling less frustrated and could save your life.
- If someone does cut in front of you on the freeway or jack you for a parking space, just let it go. Find another parking space or be content to arrive a few seconds later at your destination.
- Be mindful of your neighbors during your celebrations and be responsible for the actions of your guests. Ask that they not block your neighbor’s parking areas or leave their trash behind on the street. Also consider not hosting loud and rowdy celebrations that last into the wee hours.
- Shop early to avoid the holiday crush of last minute shoppers
- Resist the temptation to fight over the last unit of that “must have toy” or other hot gift. Chances are that it will be on sale after the holidays anyway.
- Remeber that these are tough times and don’t be offended if your coworkers can’t or don’t want to buy the holiday items being sold by your child’s school.
- Likewise don’t feel like a Scrooge if you can’t afford the items that your coworker is selling or to participate in the office celebrations.
- Be patient with store clerks, transportation workers and restuarant servers. Chances are they are working long hours with little sleep in order to make sure that YOU have a cheerful holiday season
- Finally take a moment to slow down and remember what the holiday season truly represents; a time to pause and reflect on your spiritual connections to Divinity, nature and your loved ones.
Have a Blessed Yule, Merry Christmas, Joyous Kwanzaa and Happy Chanuka.