Why Pre-Marital Coaching?

Pre-Marital counseling in Los

Many couples spend several months making meticulous plans for their wedding day. They stress over the bride’s dress, the floral arrangements, seating charts, the paper weight for the invitations and the flavor of the cake. However, the one thing that they don’t prepare for is the marriage that comes after the wedding.. They neglect to discuss the hard questions such as what role spirituality or religion will play in thier lives, where they will live, how the finances will be handled or thier discipline styles when it comes to raising the children.

Pre-marital coaching and counseling is the tool to help you discuss these areas of your upcoming marriage. It is the most valuable investment that a marrying couple can make to ensure a happy and harmonious marriage, The goal of pre-marital counseling is should not be to tell you whether or not the two of you should get married; Ultimately that decision is yours and yours alone. However, pre-marital coaching sessions should help you to become better partners by helping you to identify areas of strength in your relationship as well as potential growth areas concerning communication, money sex, family, spirituality, parenting styles and other areas that will impact your marriage.

Wedding officiant, Rev. Connie Jones-Steward offers pre-marital coaching sessions in the Los Angeles and Orange County areas or worldwide via the Internet. She uses the PrePare-Enrich Model; a system that has helped over 3,000,000 couples to develop their relationship skills and save their marriage. Call her at (562) 967-1091 to arrange for your sessions or visit her website at www.officiantlady.com

5 Wedding Poems By Black Poets

In honor of Black Poetry Day, let’s talk about wedding poetry by Black poets. Here are five beautiful selections for your consideration.

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1.You Came Too, Nikki Giovani

I came to the crowd seeking friends
I came to the crowd seeking love
I came to the crowd for understanding

I found you

I came to the crowd to weep
I came to the crowd to laugh

You dried my tears
You shared my happiness

I went from the crowd seeking you
I went from the crowd seeking me
I went from the crowd forever

You came, too

2 Desire, Alice Walker

My desire is always the same; wherever Life deposits me: 

I want to stick my toe
& soon my whole body
into the water. 

I want to shake out a fat broom
& sweep dried leaves
bruised blossoms
dead insects & dust. 

I want to grow
something. It seems impossible that desire can sometimes transform into devotion; but this has happened. 

And that is how I’ve survived:
how the hole I carefully tended
in the garden of my heart
grew a heart to fill it

3. Invitation To Love,  Paul Laurence Dunbar

Come when the nights are bright with stars 

Or come when the moon is mellow; 

Come when the sun his golden bars 

Drops on the hay-field yellow. 

Come in the twilight soft and gray, 

Come in the night or come in the day, 

Come, O love, whene’er you may, 

And you are welcome, welcome. 

You are sweet, O Love, dear Love, 

You are soft as the nesting dove. 

Come to my heart and bring it to rest 

As the bird flies home to its welcome nest. 

Come when my heart is full of grief 

Or when my heart is merry; 

Come with the falling of the leaf 

Or with the redd’ning cherry. 

Come when the year’s first blossom blows, 

Come when the summer gleams and glows, 

Come with the winter’s drifting snows, 

And you are welcome, welcome

4. Touched By An Angel, Maya Angelou

We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life. 

Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls. 

We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love’s light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free

5.  And I Have You, Nikki Giovanni 

Rain has drops
Sun has shine
Moon has beams
That make you mine
Rivers have banks
Sands for shores
Hearts have heartbeats
That make me yours
Needles have eyes
Though pins may prick
Elmer has glue
To make things stick
Winter has Spring
Stockings feet
Pepper has mint
To make it sweet
Teachers have lessons
Soup du jour
Lawyers sue bad folks
Doctors cure
All and all
This much is true
You have me
And I have you

Hello from Rev. Connie Jones-Steward

Your wedding will be a unique life experience and your ceremony should be a reflection of that uniqueness. The words spoken by your officiant should reflect and express the deep love and commitment that the two of of you share.

I would be honored to help make your wedding day as stress free and memorable an experience as possible. As an ordained minister I am legally able to solemnize marriage in the State of California.

In addition to being a wedding officiant, I am also an anthropologist with knowledge of cultures, traditions and religions from around the world. My anthropological background has equipped me with research skills, cultural sensitivity and an appreciation for diversity that will help me to help you create a wedding that truly expresses your cultural and spiritual identities. And because I am a mobile officiant, I can perform your wedding at the location of your choice; elegant restaurant, intimate backyard or warm sunny beach.