Talking Wed is the wedding and spirituality blog of Rev. Connie Jones-Steward. Rev. Connie is an inter-faith and spiritually inclusive wedding officiant and ceremony celebrant serving Los Angeles and Southern California. Her specialty is crafting unique and heartfelt wedding and life-cycle ceremonies that express the spiritualities and personalities of the her clients.
For most of recorded history, the majority of couples marrying each other did so according to the guidelines of their religious faith. However with the rise of interfaith couples and with the steady drift of people away from allegiance to any particular religion, more couples are deciding on civil or spiritual wedding ceremonies. But how do you know the difference and decide which type is best for you? As an independent celebrant, I offer both types of ceremonies and this blog entry presents the key differences so you can decide which is right for you.
Civil ceremonies are also known as secular ceremonies. Typically these ceremonies make no mention of Deity or Higher Power. However they may address such concepts as the Higher Self.
Civil ceremonies are more likely to appeal to atheists as many times they focus solely on the relationship between the couple and/or their community rather than on any relationship yof God.
Depending on your jurisdiction, a civil ceremony may be solemnized by a judge, mayor, notary public or other public servant. They can also be performed by an independent celebrant or wedding officiant.
Some couples may not adhere to any particular religion but may still consider themselves to be spiritual and opt for a spiritual ceremony. Such ceremonies will not follow the restrictions of any particular faith but may combine the elements of different faiths and spiritual systems. Some spiritual couples may elect to add wedding customs from their own culture or borrow from other cultures. They may even add religious elements from the faith that they grew up in, such as a Jewish Glass Breaking or the reading of a Christian Bible verse. Spiritual ceremonies are normally performed by officiants and celebrants who are also ordained as interfaith or nondenominational ministers.
Different states and jurisdictions have different requirements that determine who is allowed to perform legally binding wedding ceremonies. If you are marrying outside an established house of worship, it’s always prudent to do your due diligence to ensure that your officiant is legitimate.
You may know that December 27th is National Fruitcake Day. You may know that fruitcake is traditionally served at British royal weddings. But did you know that the original wedding cake is fruitcake? It’s true, and for two reasons.
Firstly, fruitcake was once viewed as a symbol of wealth and prosperity due to its expensive and sought after ingredients , ie sugar, spices and exotic fruits. Therefore serving it was a show of financial status.
The second reason has to do with the fact that the tradition started in the Middle Ages, when food preservation was a problem. The high content of rum or brandy in fruitcake protects the cake from spoilage. The fruit in a fruitcake is also functional; it serves to attract water molecules that keep the cake moist. Add the fruit and alcohol together and you get a moist cake that just won’t (or can’t) go bad.
The virtual inability of fruitcake to go bad is a huge benefit to royal wedding cake bakers who sometimes require several months to decorate royal wedding cakes.
Who says that you can’t dress up for your beach elopement. Definitely not Alexis and DeAngelo who came to slay at their beach elopement on Little Corona Del Mar Beach in Corona Del.Mar.
The date 11/11 holds not only spiritual but personal significance for Alexis and DeAngelo, therefore it was important for them to be married on that day. They originally planned to elope on El Matador in Malibu. However when the Woolsey wildfire made the Malibu area inaccessible, I was able to suggest Little Corona Del Mar Beach. So not only were they able to marry on 11/11 in the presence of Mother Ocean, but they both said that this setting was even more beautiful than their original choice.
The ceremony, which was attended by both mothers and the groom’s sister, included words on the significance of numerical sequence 1111 and jumping the broom.
On a sunny afternoon in September Ife and John said “I do” in a lovely ceremony at The Hummingbird Nest Ranch in Simi Valley, CA.
The groom wore a pink tux in honor of his mother who died of breast cancer. Their customized ceremony included personal vows written by the couple, poetry by Gibran and culminated in Ife and John jumping the broom.
John is author of the book “The Oop: Simplifying Finance & Economics Through Basketball”, in which the concepts and terminology of basketball are used to impart financial wisdom and literacy. His writing skill was evident in his touching and personal vows to Ife.
Bridges and grottos and trails OH MY! Ferndell Hiking Trail in the Ferndell section of Los Angeles’s Griffith Park is the perfect spot for a woodsy elopement . However, you’ll have to have your elopement ceremony early if you want to find nearby parking spot and avoid being photobombed by hikers.
Keep scrolling to see the hollow tree that looks like a heart.
Would you like to elope near a creek, bike path and hiking trails without having to drive to Griffith Park?
Compton Creek Natural Park in Compton, CA is an oasis of natural beauty and serenity located in the heart of the Hub City. The native plants and tranquil surroundings will provide a picturesque backdrop for your elopement photos.