This autumn has been an exceptionally warm one for the Los Angeles areas. With almost two weeks of triple digit temperatures and no signs of sweater weather in sight. It’s prompted many to ask, “Where is fall?”. Jasmine and Reggie, on the other hand, have taken advantage of the extended summer to have a short and sweet elopement with just their parents in attendance
The couple met seven years ago at the Empire State Building in New York City. They’ve spent the past seven years travelling the world together and have visited many exotic locales such as Chile, Italy, Japan. Thailand and France. Now they have decided to put down roots and start a family in Los Angeles.
Both sets of parents flew in to witness the marriage of their children. Jasmine’ s parents flew in from Colorado and Reggie’s flew in from North Carolina. It was the first time that the parents had met.
Jasmine and Reggie are planning a lavish destination wedding in Mexico for Apri 2018.
The dating website Match.com boasts about the high number of marriages between its users. Now it can add Dawn and Mark to that number.
The couple chose to exchange vows at the beautiful Hotel Maya in Long Beach, CA. They chose the location because they loved the gorgeous Spanish theme and the spectacular views of Long Beach Harbor and the city skyline.
If Dawn could sum up her wedding day in three words they would be: amazing, loving and memorable Says Dawn “My big day was exhausting but the excitement of going from Ms. to Mrs was exhilarating. I was filled with love, happiness and joy to share my vows with the man I love in the presence of all our friends and family.”
Diamonds and engagement rings go together like Frick and Frack. However Many couples are looking for diamond alternatives for moral, financial or spiritual reasons. Perhaps they disagree with the ethics, or lack thereof, of the African diamond trade, maybe they would rather put their money to other uses or maybe they want their rings to carry a certain spiritual energy. Whatever the reasons, quartz crystals come in a variety of colors and carry a variety of energies that make them excellent alternatives to the classic diamond bridal sets.
Quartz crystals are a seven on the MOHS scale which means they are almost as hard as diamonds. Like diamonds they can scratch glass and can only be scratched themselves by stones with hardness of eight or higher.
Here are seven of the most popular alternatives to the classic diamond engagement ring.
1. Herkimer Diamond: Herkimer diamonds are so named because they were first discovered in the area of Herkimer County, NY. This variety of quartz is known for it’s clear, almost water like clarity.
They are known as high energy seekers and as conduits to Divine energy. They correspond to the throat, brow and crown chakras and can help heal physical, emotional and spiritual pain.
2. Rose Quartz: This lovely pink stone is mined in many places throughout the world, but Brazil is it’s main source. Rose quartz corresponds to the heart chakra and carries the energy of unconditional love. It also eases symptoms of stress, sadness and depression. Rose quartz transmits the feminine energies of compassion, tenderness and healing.
3. Amethyst: This stone was first discovered in 3000 B.C.E in Europe. The Greeks believed it warded off drunkenness and so named it “amethystos” which meant “not drunk”. Purple was the color of royalty in Elizabethan England; Therefore Amethyst was highly prized by English royals.
Amethyst is not only associated with sobriety; It also helps ease conditions of the nervous systems and sleep disorders such as nightmares and insomnia. It is associated with the crown chakra.
4. Lemon Quartz: Lemon quartz is the trade name for an irradiated form of citrine. It is said to help focus positive energy and to help control food and nicotine craving. It is also reputed to help post-surgical healing. As a yellow stone, it helps to balance the solar plexus chakra.
5. Citrine: Citrine has been used as a stone of manifestation since at least 300 B.C.E. It comes in colors ranging from pale yellow to almost brown. It enhances professional relationships such as between buyer and seller and therefore increases personal wealth. It also promotes harmonious family relationship.
Citrine helps to balance the solar plexus chakra. A healthy solar plexus chakra helps to maintain a healthy digestive system, back and liver. It is also the seat of personal will and power.
6. Rutilated Quartz: Rutilated quartz is a clear quartz with golden strands known as ” rutiles” crisscrossing throughout. It is said to repel negative energy, however if negative energy does make it through the crystals, it will be caught it the rutiles like nightmares in a dreamcatcher.
Rutilated quartz opens and connects the third eye and crown chakras to facilitate meditation and insight.
7. Smoky Quartz: Smoky quartz is a transculent stone ranging in color from light grey to dark brown. Its use dates to at least 12th century China where it was used to make the first recorded sunglasses. Ancient documents also report that Chinese judges wore glasses made of smoky quartz to hide their expressisions in the courtroom.
Smoky quartz is associated with the first or root chakra. It helps calm fears associated with fear of failure, financial lack or loss. It is a grounding and stabalizing stone that helps keep us connected to Mother Earth.
If you are getting married in the State of California you’ll be happy to know that California maariage license regulations are some of the easiest in the United States. For example:
There is no blood test required.
There is no waiting period. You can get married literally the minute after you receive your license.
Only one witness is required. Make that 0 witnesses if you opt for the confidential license.
You can get a confidential license if you and your partner currently live together. The confidential license cost less and there are no laws that specify how long you have to have been living together.
Without a court order, the confidential license is not viewable by anyone other than the parties to the marriage
You can start the application process online. This is a huge advantage for couples coming from out of state.
The public license can be used in any county within the State of California.
California marriage licences are obtained from the County Clerk’s offices of California counties. The website for the Los Angeles County Clerk is www.lavote.net To obtain more details on the process of obtaining a California marriage license as well as to find the web addresses to the County Clerks of other Southern California counties, please visit the wedding license information section of my wedding officiant website at www.officiantlady.com
Three important points to remember are:
The County Clerk initially issues to you a “license” to be married. The “certificate” of marriage is issued after your properly executed license is received and recorded by the County Clerk’s office.
It is the responsibility of your wedding officiant to return your marriage license to the CountyClerk within 10 days of your wedding ceremony.
Your marriage license is only valid for 90 days from the date of issue by the County Clerk.
From time to time during my many years as a Los Angeles wedding officiant I have been asked if a ceremony is needed to be legally married in the State of California. These wedding clients have wondered if they could just meet with me and have me sign the license.
The answer lies in what you consider a ceremony. While it’s true that the California’s Family Code requires a “ceremony” for a marriage to be legal section 420(a) makes it clear that there is no legally required format for the ceremony. Specifically section 420 (a) of the Family Code reads:”No particular form for the ceremony of marriage is required for solemnization of the marriage, but the parties shall declare, in the physical presence of the person solemnizing the marriage and necessary witnesses, that they take each other as spouses.” That means that I can legally marry two people by simply receiving an answer of “yes” or “I do” to the question “Do you Mary take John to be your husband?”.
There are various legitimate reasons that a couple would want such a ceremony. For example, the couple pictured below had a legally non-binding ceremony earlier in the day followed by my officiating a “Simple I do” ceremony as part of their evening Halloween party.
Other reasons include that they are marrying for insurance or tax purposes or one partner is deploying soon. In these cases there are usually plans for a more formal ceremony in the future.
In honor of Black Poetry Day, let’s talk about wedding poetry by Black poets. Here are five beautiful selections for your consideration.
1.You Came Too, Nikki Giovani
I came to the crowd seeking friends
I came to the crowd seeking love
I came to the crowd for understanding
I found you
I came to the crowd to weep
I came to the crowd to laugh
You dried my tears
You shared my happiness
I went from the crowd seeking you
I went from the crowd seeking me
I went from the crowd forever
You came, too
2 Desire, Alice Walker
My desire is always the same; wherever Life deposits me:
I want to stick my toe
& soon my whole body
into the water.
I want to shake out a fat broom
& sweep dried leaves
dead insects & dust.
I want to grow
something. It seems impossible that desire can sometimes transform into devotion; but this has happened.
And that is how I’ve survived:
how the hole I carefully tended
in the garden of my heart
grew a heart to fill it
3. Invitation To Love, Paul Laurence Dunbar
Come when the nights are bright with stars
Or come when the moon is mellow;
Come when the sun his golden bars
Drops on the hay-field yellow.
Come in the twilight soft and gray,
Come in the night or come in the day,
Come, O love, whene’er you may,
And you are welcome, welcome.
You are sweet, O Love, dear Love,
You are soft as the nesting dove.
Come to my heart and bring it to rest
As the bird flies home to its welcome nest.
Come when my heart is full of grief
Or when my heart is merry;
Come with the falling of the leaf
Or with the redd’ning cherry.
Come when the year’s first blossom blows,
Come when the summer gleams and glows,
Come with the winter’s drifting snows,
And you are welcome, welcome
4. Touched By An Angel, Maya Angelou
We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.
We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love’s light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free
5. And I Have You, Nikki Giovanni
Rain has drops
Sun has shine
Moon has beams
That make you mine
Rivers have banks
Sands for shores
Hearts have heartbeats
That make me yours
Needles have eyes
Though pins may prick
Elmer has glue
To make things stick
Winter has Spring
Pepper has mint
To make it sweet
Teachers have lessons
Soup du jour
Lawyers sue bad folks
All and all
This much is true
You have me
And I have you
October 14 is National Motorcycle Ride Day so let’s talk about inspirations for the bride who’s wedding dreams are less Will & Kate and more Easy Rider.
California beaches and national parks provide the perfect backdrop for the free spirited, rebel nature of a biker elopement. If you’d rather ride off into the future on the back of your new husband’s Harley than in the backseat of the wedding getaway car, then I know you’ll enjoy these photos borrowed from styled shoots that appear on Southern California Bride and Green Wedding Shoes. All photos remain the property of their rightful owners.
Need an officiant to help you create your biker themed wedding ceremony? Contact Rev. Connie Jones-Steward @ www.officiantlady.com
October 11 is National Fossil Day, so let’s talk about wedding bands made of fossilized dinosaur bone, petrified wood and meteorite. Pretty awesome, right?
Diamonds may be forever but fossilized dinosaur bone is also pretty high on the durability scale. Jeweler Johan creates beautiful wedding sets from dinosaur bone said to be from the Morrison Formation in Utah: a site that dates back 65, 000,000 years to the Jurrasic era. Aailable designs also incorporate fossilized wood, elk antlers and meteorites.
But Jewelry by Johan isn’t the only jeweler to offer Jurrassic jewelry. This men’s wedding band, featuring an inlay of dyed red dinosaur bone is the creation of Brilliance: a leading maker of wedding and engagement rings from conflict free diamonds and alternative materials.
This beautiful bridal set is made of meteorite and set with a black diamond. It’s offered by Recio Designs, a company that promises no two rings are ever the same. According to the company’s website the meteor used to create this set is “over 4 billion years old, literally older than dirt.”
As an anthropologist I would love to wear a ring made of dinosaur bone and meteorite. I may get one for my right hand. Let me know what you think in the comments
Looking for a wedding officiant to help you create alternative ring vows? Contact Rev. Connie Jones-Steward @ www.officiantlady.com
October 10 is National Handbag Day, so let’s talk about choosing the right hand bag to accentuate your wedding day look.
On most days we ladies would be lost without our purses and handbags. Face it, we carry our lives in our purses so the wedding day is no time to be without this most important of items. But on the other hand, are we really going to carry around our favorite Michael Kors bag at the wedding reception? That would “not” be a good look in the wedding photos.
Bridal bags to the rescue. A good bridal bag is big enough to hold your cosmetics and a small mirror for your all important touch-ups as well as your cell phone in case you want to snap a selfie with the new spouse or with your bridesmaids, but it is not so big as to be cumbersome.
Your wedding handbag should also compliment your wedding gown; meaning it is made of a similar fabric and in a complimentary color and with similar embellishment such as beads and sequins.
Merriam-Webster online defines atheism as a lack of belief or a strong disbelief in the existence of a god or any gods “or” a philosophical or religious position chacterized by disbelief in the existence of a god or any gods. It defines an Atheist as a person who subscribes to or advocates atheism.
The belief in God or gods is at the center of most religions and belief systems. These religions and belief systems in turn lay the foundations for ritualized life cycle celebrations— such as weddings, funerals, baby blessings and bar/bat mitzvahs—that offer a sense of belonging, community and make life meaningful to their adherants.
So where does that leave the wedding couple that is Atheist or for other reasons wants to have a wedding that does not acknowledge the existence of God yet still be meaningful ? If you, dear Atheist, feel that your only option is a cold courthouse style wedding–bereft of any sense of joy, community or the ritualized pagentry of a church wedding–I’m happy to tell you that you are wrong.
While a religious wedding is a celebration of religious tradition, an Athiest wedding has the potential to be a celebration of love and joy. Whereas a religious wedding ceremony usually focuses on “God’s” rules concerning marriage, an Atheist celebration is free to focus on you and how you view marriage. In this type of ceremony you have greater freedom of expression that allows you to include music, readings and traditions that may not be allowed in a more traditional ceremony but hold great meaning for you. An Atheist ceremony will also allow you to invite friends and family to participate in your wedding ceremony in non-conforming ways.
At it’s simplist the word atheist means “without God” so an Atheist wedding ceremony is one that does not mention God or any Higher Power. Many of my couples are interfaith or don’t follow any particular religious doctrine. They thus choose a ceremony that avoids reference to any form of Deity as a way to avoid discomfort or resentment on either side of the aisle.
Atheist weddings are structured much the same as religious weddings. Your officiant will begin with an opening or welcome, usually followed by words that reflect your shared values, your hopes and intentions for your marriage and your vows to each other. There may also be readings from poetry, historical or current events or cultural references that are relevant your wedding ceremony. Friends and family may participate as readers or they may sing songs that are important to either partner.
As the ceremony draws to a close, the officiant may perform secular versions of such wedding traditions as the unity candle or wedding lasso. An experienced officiant can secularize almost any typically religious unity ceremony or may opt for something that is less likely to be viewed as religious, such as a sand blending. This is also the segment where cultural traditions like jumping the broom may be added.
You will then be prounouced as married before your friends, family and guests. As you can see, just because Atheist means without God is no reason that your Atheist wedding has to be without the joy, beauty, meaning and sense of community that is inspired by a religious wedding.