This morning I read a social media post by a friend who recently lost her daughter. In the post she reminded people that vague offers of help, though well intentioned, can have the effect of putting yet another burden on a person whose heart and mind are already overly taxed with grief an making decisions that they hoped they would never have to make. When we ask “How can I help?” or say “Let me know how I can help.” we are literally putting another demand on that person; now they have to stop, figure out an answer for us, then get back to us with that answer.
A better way would be to approach the grieving friend with options that he or she can answer with a simple yes or no. “Would you like me to bring you a casserole tonight?” “Can I walk your dog for the rest of the week?” Thank to my friends post, I now realize that the direct approach is mostly likely the best approach to helping a friend make it through the days or weeks following an unexpected loss.
A vow renewal is wonderful and romantic way to mark a milestone anniversary such as the 10th, 25th or 50th. It can also be a time for spouses to recommit to one another after a period of separation or marital disharmony.
Your vow renewal can be similar to your wedding ceremony or something completely new and different. You can involve your kids and some of the newer trends that weren’t available when you first said I do.
For instance, your kids are probably teens by now. You can enlist them as the maid of honor and best man.
You can also take advantage of some of the newer technologies and hashtag, tweet or broadcast your vow renewal to distant relatives via Instagram, Twitter and Facebook live or similar services as it happens.*
Contact Rev. Connie Jones-Steward for help with planning your vow renewal ceremony.
*This post updated in August 2017
Despite what you may have seen in movies such as Poltergeist, most house blessings and space clearings do not involve the exorcism of discontented or malevolent spirits.
Instead, many people enjoy the benefits of house blessings and space clearings to clear the area of negative energies left behind by periods of familial trouble , sickness, loss or extreme financial hardships.
House blessings are frequently performed when moving into a new home in order to clear out any troubling energies left behind by the previous family. Office or business blessings can be performed on the opening day to encourage happy patrons and good business. They can also be performed during periods of slow business to encourage increased customer traffic.
Call me if you would like me to perform a spiritual blessing on your home or business.